Grace asks about her mother often, and I answer honestly, every time, the good parts and the harder ones both, because I decided early on that she deserved the whole truth, even the pieces that still cost me something to say out loud.
“Do you forgive her?” Grace asked me once, nearly a year after that first afternoon in Renata’s backyard, old enough by then to ask harder questions than she used to.
I thought about that a long moment before I answered.
“I forgive her for being scared,” I said. “I understand why she stayed quiet as long as she did, even though I wish every single day she hadn’t. But I don’t have to choose between forgiving her and missing what those ten years cost both of us. I get to hold onto both those things at the same time. So do you, whenever you’re ready to.”
“I get to hold onto both those things at the same time.”
